Many people tell me that they don’t talk to their mothers and that they don’t wish their moms a Happy Mother’s Day. The reasons vary from how she wasn’t a good mother to how you got into an argument that has extended throughout the years.
I understand that the mother-child (mother-adult child) relationship can be complicated, strained, and maybe even severely damaged. Perhaps it’s her fault or maybe it’s your fault. Most likely, both of you played a part in the damaged relationship. Maybe you talk to your mom only when necessary or you haven’t spoken to her in years.
The hurt and pain still continues. She may still not be the kind of mom you want her to be. Maybe she’s not even a good mom at all. Perhaps you’re not the best son or daughter. None of this matters.
What really matters on Mother’s Day is that you simply wish her a Happy Mother’s Day. She is your mom. She did carry you for nine months (give or take) and she did have some contribution in your life regardless of what you may think. Because she is your mother, she deserves respect. Period.
Don’t wait until it’s too late. Don’t wait until she makes changes. Don’t wait until she deserves it. Don’t wait for whatever reason you think you need to wait on for you to talk to your mother. This is the one mom that you truly have and this is the one day that has been set aside for her.
Go ahead. Take that step with no judgement, excuses, attitude, bad memories, etc. Leave it all behind when you call to say, “Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.”