As crazy as it seems, many people truly do fear success. Many of us want success to happen in our lives yet there are also those who fear even the mere thought of success. How can this be possible, you ask? Well here are the top three reasons people fear success:
1. Change is scary. Good change or bad change is something that some people fear because change requires stepping out of what is comfortable and what they are used to. Humans love routine. We become accustomed to what they are used to as they know it is predictable, reliable (even if in a bad way), and routine. People who are afraid of change like knowing what to expect in the mundane routine of what is considered to be the daily routine.
Good change and bad change requires us to be more alert and requires challenges and work. Many people will even fight to remain status quo although they may not want to or even realize it because, once again, it is what they are used to and have become comfortable with.
2. Success will have to be maintained (kept) or even worse, increased. People get stressed out when they think about having to continuously be successful and having to match or increase the level of successful. It is more of a self-driven fear to continue a certain level of success yet even though it may be their perception, they still believe that others will expect the same from them. And many people do not want any more pressures in their lives.
3. Success means hard work. No one likes to think about the hard work that they have to do in order to succeed and to continue to succeed. There are so many things fighting for our time and resources, who needs something else on their list of responsibilities and things to do? Although they may dream of success, just the thought of additional work and commitment can cause someone to keep their dreams of success at bay and so they continue on through life without ever achieving success.
Think about any fears that you may have regarding success. Check to see if they are realistic or unrealistic. Write a list of why your fears are realistic and why they aren’t. This includes listing the names of people around you who tell you that you won’t be successful. This should help you to see why you fear success and also to see if your decision to be afraid of success is because of you or due to other people and reasons. It is a good idea to have another person view this list and to make comments and suggestions.
Imagine that you do gain success and do accomplish the very thing that you are afraid of. Run through different scenarios. This should help you picture in full detail what it would be like and how you’d feel and react. Using imagery and going through different scenarios helps you to really think about what you are fearful of regarding success and you might just find out that it’s not so cumbersome and worrisome after all. You might even find out that you’re already doing some of what is required to gain success and that may be a motivating factor to go for all-out success.
Make a list of things that can be reduced or removed in order for you to achieve success. Focus on how much time and resources you can make to accomplish gaining success. Make a list of what you need to do and who can assist you in reaching what you consider to be success. As you review your list, you will start to see where you can take the time and gather the resources you need, you’ll see that your fear of success was limited by what you thought you didn’t have.
Get into action. Many times we fear the unknown. Similar to someone who has never flown in an airplane or rarely travels by plane, the fear of flying is greatly reduced or even eliminated with increase travel by flying.