I don’t know about you but I sometimes get so tired of all the self help books that have all the answers for all your problems. You know, if you are hooked on smoking then this book can help you quit overnight, if you need to lose a couple of pounds this book is what will help you melt those pounds off. I can’t help but wonder if these books are are so wonderful then why there is a new one almost weekly?
These authors and books are popular and keep coming into print because people continue to struggle over the same thing time and time again. We all have friends, family or acquaintance who struggle with things we just don’t understand. How could they struggle with something so simple to overcome, we often find ourselves asking. I would never struggle with something so bad and destructive.
Yet reality is that we all struggle with things in life especially as we get older. Perhaps it may not be working less and spending more time with family, getting more exercise, or eating out less often. Maybe the struggle is in the way we talk to our significant other or with an addiction, we all face things that we have to battle over and over again. This is where compassion for others who struggle should step in.
So how do we move beyond the acceptance phase into the overcoming stage in our personal struggle? We must be able to recognize a couple of important facts as we engage our struggle, whatever it may be.
First we must see the utmost importance of the endeavor so that we do not lose the urgency of our effort. In our words, we must make overcoming our struggles a top priority. When the times get tough there must be an unmistakable message that pushes us on from within. If it is about giving up a bad habit or overcoming a health crisis we must know without a doubt the objective of our effort. By setting our goals in this area as top priority, it is not as difficult to lose sight and focus or we will easily give up.
Secondly there has to be an accounting of what is to be lost if we are not successful. The hardship we suffer or bring on others or maybe it is something we desire to share or give to others that will be lost. These are the consequences and results of not overcoming our challenges.
When considering what is to be lost and the result of not achieving our goals, it is wise to call upon others to keep us accountable. Whether it is a professional counselor, a family member, a friend, or a colleague, tell someone about your struggles and how you specifically tend to overcome them. Ask this person or these people to meet with you or talk on the phone on a regular basis to keep you accountable. It is much easier to stay on track when someone is holding you accountable.
Then probably the most important factor any of us need to incorporate our lives is the will to never give up. No matter where we find ourselves, or the circumstances that surround us, we can never give up. If we suffer a setback we must embrace the will to get back in the fight.
Never to give up is the creed that has powered the truly great success stories. With the right motivation and resolve we can overcome our demons and encourage others to do the same.