With all the discussions on getting your message out and how to best communicate with others I found a time you don’t want to be heard. That’s right; there is a time when you don’t want to be heard! I discovered this “when creating the buzz” is just much too much while out to dinner one evening and it still haunts me today.
I know you have been there. Perhaps you were out with your significant other anticipating a nice dinner and the message hits you like a semi truck on the interstate. It’s screaming in your ear and everyone else’s too. Sally, the lady four tables away is sharing how Rob doesn’t know what he is doing, and she can tell you why he is wasting the companies money and the most importantly, how the company should promote her to do the job better.
This loud person (male or female) is talking so loudly and is disturbing everyone’s dinner. They really don’t have any respect for others around them as they continue talking above the rest of the diners and continues sharing the soap opera details of their lives.
In these times where time is our rarest resource, we find it is hard enough to get the chance to go out to eat and have that quiet time with someone special but to have to listen to someone blab on and on about everything is much too much.
This past weekend as I tried to enjoy a nice dinner, I sat there and listened to a lady talk. Well, I really didn’t have a choice as she was too many decibals too loud. As I listened to her ramble on about herself, I realized that the woman was amazing as she was telling about how great she was and how she knew everything. She talked about her employer, her colleagues, her family. Amazingly, she knew more than anyone on this planet and had no problem letting the entire restaurant hear about it.
The point is very simple, when you are out and have the need to out talk everyone else and I mean be the center of conversation, zip it! Ward off the temptation and gain some self control as well as respect for others. This is not hard to figure out, if people two or more tables away are turning around to stare you down, note to self, maybe I am talking too loud and too much.
If your guests are only bobble headed dolls nodding because they can’t get a word in, please get full grasp of yourself soon. It’s not hard to see people rolling their eyes. It should only be common sense to see that you’re taking over the conversation and disturbing others.
The same goes with social networking. If you’re posting only things about you and what you do and not paying any attention to your connections and followers, this too is bad manners. Whether in reality (face to face) or online, have manners and have some etiquette and netiquette.