The beginning of the Father’s Day Celebration was supposedly created some 4000 years ago. A young Babylonian boy wanted to wish his father a long life and good health and carved the first card on a clay slate. Through the years it has been celebrated in different ways around the world.
The holiday took a serious turn in 1910 when a lady by the name of Sonora Smart Dodd came up with the thought of making it a more promenade honor while listening to a Mother’s Day sermon and remembering her father and his sacrifices to her as a single dad after losing her mom at a young age. Then in 1924 President Calvin Coolidge proclaimed the third Sunday in June as Father’s Day. President Nixon then in 1972 made the observance permanent.
So how did you celebrate Father’s Day this past weekend? Did you celebrate at all? Was it the one day that you don’t want to think about? Or did you embrace it with great joy and respect for your dad whether he is still alive or not?
Some of you might have celebrated Dad’s day this past weekend with dinner, perhaps a big cookout. Some may have had a smaller get together. Yet others may be far away from their dads and made phone calls and sent an email, e-card, or a gift.
Then there are those who shared memories of their papas who have past away or who they may not talk to anymore. Some spent this special day to honor dad by their bedsides due to illness or hospitalizations or nursing homes.
And there are some of you out there who don’t speak to your dads or your fathers don’t speak to you. Maybe your dad has died and the past memories are great or maybe they are terrible. Life is not easy and there are so many details, factors, choices, and actions that make life complicated.
Yet it is the hope that Father’s Day 2011, which is now over, was a good one for not just dads but for all. If your celebration was not a celebration but one that you’d like to forget, it is my hope that you can do what it takes to make this time of year better. Perhaps your dad was not the best dad in the world yet I encourage you to remember some of the good things that he did and the better qualities that he has/had. If you look for them, I’m quite sure you’ll find them. It’s amazing what a change in attitude can do.
If you’ve chosen to not talk to your dad and have estranged from him, begin the steps to healing this relationship. It’s easier said than done but it can indeed be done. It’s a matter of choice and perhaps he may not want to change and take steps to heal the relationship, yet it is within each of us to do what we can. I guarantee you that when you take these steps for yourself, life and your attitude toward your father will be much better. Regardless of what your dad does or doesn’t do.
Your father may have passed away and you don’t have the chance to physically work on things yet I still suggest on working on the memories, hurts, and pain that may still be haunting you. If this is your case.
If you’ve wronged and hurt your dad. Begin the actions to say sorry and make amends. Who knows, your dad may have been waiting for a long time for you to come back to him. He may have forgiven you quite some time ago.
And if you have a great relationship with your father, continue on that road. You have a very blessed relationship that both of you have worked on.
Regardless of your past with your dad and all the complications of the father-child relationship, it’s time to respect your dad just for who he is – your father, biological, adopted, and/or godfather.
This does not mean to accept anything you don’t agree with or to excuse things. It’s about respecting the man who helped give you life. The man that is your father just because of that role in your life – your dad.
This is easier said than done, as stated before, yet it can be done. Then perhaps you can work toward a Father’s Day for 2012 that will be much better. And for those who just love that special day for dad and celebrated this past weekend with all enjoyment, be sure to keep that Father’s Day spirit year round and celebrate here and there just because he’s dad!